And frankly, telling them that men are losers or even proving it conclusively doesn't improve anyone's plight. Now I've been running and attending young alumni events for Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Stanford, MIT, Columbia, Duke, Swarthmore, Penn, Cornell, Berkeley, Brown, Dartmouth, Oxford, Cambridge and similar well-regarded institutions for a while.
I've also been privy to the dating woes of hundreds of men who wrote me subsequent to their reading . Some smart women put themselves in a no-win bind when it comes to finding an intellectual match.
This guest blog from relationship expert Janet Ong Zimmerman contains some real words of wisdom.
I love the idea that we can control our dating lives more than we realize — and I have heard the point about being who you want to attract from some very wise souls out there. Modern dating rules have become complicated, as the role of men and women are blurred.
I love it when she can write a sonnet, use Euler's formula, code Perl, play a concerto, speak half a dozen languages, run a company, quote Chaucer, diagnose diabetes, compose a quartet and converse brilliantly.
Especially in a big city like Los Angeles or New York, looks alone do not suffice.
And then your both head over heels, and before you know it you're in a relationship.
Don't constantly go up to talk to him, instead, after you've talked to him for a while and made your intentions mostly clear to him, see if he approaches you on his own will and tries to do the same you did with him. There’s been eviscerating break ups, whirlwind romances and casual dates in between. The romantic ones of the bunch attribute it to not yet finding a perfect match, while the more cynical ones say it’s the guys we’re choosing, like we have bad taste in men.I’m more inclined to think it’s not so much bad taste in men, but a taste for the bad boys.That's what compelled me to write What compels me to write this article today is a recent trip to the Harvard-Yale Game festivities, reminding me of how smart, educated women routinely sabotage their own chances for romantic fulfillment.Because, as fabulous as these ladies are, all of their failed relationships have one thing in common: themselves.