The best communication occurs with an even and equal exchange between two people. Getting to know someone new is like peeling an onion one thin layer at the time. But some people, overeager to get into deep and meaningful conversation, go too far too fast. Think of conversation as a tennis match in which the players lob the ball back and forth. They ask personal or sensitive questions that put the other person on the defensive. If feeling inhibited is a problem for some people, others go to the opposite extreme: they use a date as an opportunity to purge and vent. Dates, especially first dates should be , of course! First dates are a blank canvas upon which you get to shine. Focus not so much on weeding out during this first interaction, but instead on having fun and how that can be accomplished.Put the focus on each other and allow the individual colors that shade who we are to shine.
Actually, if high school's involved, maybe it could get a bit therapeutic. Your families If you don't think to ask up-front, you can actually go a surprising amount of time without even knowing what someone's parents do for a living.Places you've lived or traveled Not only is this a great opportunity to learn something about a new place, you'll also find out aboutthe experiences that have shaped your date—and maybe even gauge their adventurous side.Even if you've both spent your lives in the same city, the character of your respective neighborhoods can provide a funny topic of discussion.Look, getting to know someone can be intimidating, and even when both people are perfectly interesting and the chemistry is there, it's hard to know the right conversation topics to bring up with a stranger.You might be hesitant to ask something personal when you're just getting to know someone, but you also want to get out of that dreaded small-talk territory—and thwart those equally-dreaded awkward silences.